8. Comfort Her: A good husband always comfort his wife. Marriage counselors do not talk about it much, but comforting your wife is one of your primary roles as a good husband. It is right there in the vows you made before God and many witnesses on the day of your wedding. You are not only there to comfort your wife when she is in pain, you are also there to comfort her when the kids have worn her patience to a nub. You are also there to comfort her when she has a headache. You are also there to comfort her when she does not feel pretty. Yes, when she is no longer the charming pretty girl you use to die for. Do not be a problem solver where and when you are expected to just be a comforter. Men tend to want to solve problems and offer solutions to others with problems. But often, what women need is comfort, not solutions.Good husbands have happier marriages, and enjoy a richer, deeper, better life and relationships.
9. Be your wife’s champion: Your wife needs to feel your strength and security. She needs to know that you are there now and forever for her. To make your wife happy, do not let her be in charge all of the time and also do not also weaken your message of powerful unconditional love based on her moods or behavior. A good husband will stand by his wife no matter what, and also stand for himself when the need be. All these put together goes a long way to the wife confidence and security.
10. Tell your wife that she is beautiful. A good husband always remind his wife of his beauty, and also make her to realize that he only have eyes for her. You dilute the strength of your marriage when you look at other women. How will your wife feel safe and be comfortable in the marriage if she feels threatened? To be a good husband, devote yourself to her completely. Never treat anyone like you would have treated her. If you find your self attracted to another woman, run for your dear life. Become more careful and never give audience to your object of attraction.
11. Listen to your wife’s feelings: Listen to the feelings of your wife. Do not push her away each time she beckons for a listening ear. You might not understand or agree with her in everything, and that is fine. Just listen. Most husbands argue or get frustrated when their wives share feelings, and this does not make marriages happy. A good husband conveys unconditional support to his wife and makes her feel safe to share all parts of herself. Your wife will feel much secured and well loved if she can freely express herself without the fear of penalization.
12. Spend time with your wife. To be a good husband, you must use your words and actions to demonstrate that your wife is your greatest priority. She needs to know she is special to you and preferred above all other women. You can still enjoy your sports, television, and hunting or fishing, but if your wife does not know she comes first in your life; she may resent other pursuits of your life. Learn the best ways to say “I love you.” Lavish her with praise. Romance her, pamper her, kiss her passionately. Let her feel secured in the comfort of your embrace. Send her constant short text message of how much you value and adore her.
13. Show love and affection: Being affectionate after sex takes time and it does not make most men feel manly. In fact guys do not like being cuddly, but women need affection all the time. So do not starve your wife of that affection that she craves for and also deserve to have. Do not give her affection only when you need her to satisfy your sexual urge. That is a crafty way of taking undue advantage of her. If you only give her that stuff to get to bed, your wife is going to notice and think it is insincere. If you show your wife spontaneous affection all the time, it reassures her of the love bond that exist between you.
Women need to feel loved and cared about. Give her a little pat when you walk by, compliment her when she is doing some task, and give her a kiss before you walk out of the door. There are good books out there in the market that can help you communicate with your wife in a romantic way. Place order for them and read them. Following the instructions contained in them, and this will make you to enjoy a successful marriage life. You will be able to find out what each of you need in a relationship to communicate love and affection.
While men seem to think women just want hot sex, it is actually tenderness and affection they crave even more. Men are often so focused on their own performance that they lose sight of their wife’s need for cuddling and closeness. If you can just give them that cuddling and affection, they will give all their best and you will be maritally fulfilled. While an aerobic romp between the sheets can be great, if it is followed by indifference or coldness, any benefits to the system or the partnership are cancelled out in a major way. Sex without vulnerability and closeness is just friction if you truly do not feel affectionate toward your partner. This is a marriage-killing issue you need to look at, and get some professional help.
Show your love and affection to her as often as possible. Every woman is a sucker of affection. Again, i repeat, if you only give them that stuff to get to bed, your wife is going to notice and think it is insincere. A good husband will appreciate his wife and will notice her, even after twenty or fifty years of marriage. She needs you to notice when she gets that new haircut or dresses up in something sexy for you to come home to. If you fail to notice what she is doing for you too many times, she may just count it as fruitless and quit. Give your Partner something fancy when she least expects it. Surprise her by planning a trip, preparing a nice dinner, giving a bunch of her favorite flowers or taking her out for shopping. Every woman likes to be pampered. Women, one way or the other, are nothing but over grown babies who constantly need care. But every woman has their likings, give things that she likes instead of forcing your likes on her and show her that you care, and would be always there for her. Never forget the special days in her life. Make an effort to initiate spontaneous affection with your wife. Build the companionship by doing things together whether it is a common interest or hobby. Give her a hug or surprise kiss and tell her how much you love her. Hold hands with her when you are out together. These small gestures show your wife that you have thought of her and this will help you reinforce your commitment to her.
Put in your best effort to be a good husband to your wife!
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