14. Be Willing to Get Outside Help: There are times when you need out side resource to keep your marriage going in the right direction. However, while making your search, be careful to see that you seek with a high level of intelligence, and also from qualified quarters. There is the common joke about men refusing to ask for directions. Men throughout history have needed to be self-sufficient. That is one of the characteristics which make men successful. When we were out in the wilderness hunting for food, we could not stop at the convenience store to ask where the herd was.
Self-reliance is good and can only take us so far as the depth of our knowledge permit, but you must understand that no man can actually succeed in marriage without seeking expert guidance where necessary. A smart man has to realize when he cannot do it all himself. When your marriage is in trouble, you definitely need expert advice. It is normal for a man to refuse to go to a marriage counselor over little matters, but it is abnormal for a man to refuse a visit to a marriage and relationship consultant when the success of his relationship is in shamble. It is foolish for a man to prefer to buy a map than ask for directions. In the same way, some men display stupidity by reading how-to guides on how to save their marriage than ask for professional help. How-to guides have their unique input in maintaining a healthy relationship, but it cannot in most cases substitute for a physical visit to a professional marriage consultant. In a lot of cases, getting good advice is enough. Modifying our attitudes and the subsequent behaviors those attitudes cause can have profound effects on a failing marriage. But sometimes the problems run deeper. In such situation, the man should co-operate with his wife and see a professional to talk things over and abide by the guidance received.
Do not die in silence; speak out and save your marriage. Professional marriage counselors help to reinforce the points I have made above. They are instructors in how to listen, how to show respect, how to avoid judgment, how to be a part of the team, how to express our feelings and how to be more affectionate. In short, when a man finds that his best efforts to improve his marriage skills fail, he needs a trained instructor to work on those skills with immediate effect.
15. Own up when you have messed up: It takes largeness of heart and spirit to admit when you are wrong, and also to apologize and mean it. It is also just about the only thing that helps to heal the hurt you may have unwittingly caused. If you can empathize with what your partner's feeling because of something you have said, done or have left undone, and can express your sorrow for it, you will be forgiven. And this will go a long way to make you a good husband. Good husbands show a sign of remorse and sincerely apologize when they are wrong. They go the extra mile to remedy the effect of their maltreatment. Apologizing to your wife when you are wrong does not mean you are a fool or a weakling, but it goes a long way to demonstrate that you love her and also care for her feelings. It shows that you consider her a part of you rather than making her a slave.
16. Forsaking All Others: This is very simple, but not to most men who like to eye-follow everything on skirt. These are men who are suffering from a disease called arrested development. Every man must realize that they took an oath on their wedding day to ‘forsake all others, and keep solely to their wife’. You promised to have a single wife for the rest of your life. So if you have a mistress or a girlfriend, then you are not keeping your promise. And this inevitably means you are not a good husband. I know most men will be angry with me on this note, but please realize that I am telling you the truth. It very surprising what has become of men these days. Even pastors are leaving their wives to run after other women outside. This is not good. If your wife begins to run after other men, how will you feel? Do not be misled by the concept which permit men to fantasize outside their matrimonial home. This is a sure way to marital frustration and destructive consequence as a result of a broken covenant of marriage. Be satisfied with the wife of your youth. Draw water only from your cistern and let the breast of your wife satisfy you. A good husband will not share his matrimonial love with another woman. A good husband remains faithful to his wife as long as they both live.
If you want to be a good husband, then get rid of the girlfriend(s). Do not put yourself in situations where you will be tempted to break your vows. Put the effort you would put into covering up an illicit relationship into improving your relationship with your wife instead. It will pay untold dividends. If you are a newly married husband or one celebrating your 50th wedding anniversary, you still can learn how to be a better husband. Relationships are a never-ending process that take persistent work on a daily basis to stay at their optimal level. Even the best husband in the world can work on some things, and improve in many ways. Faithfulness and loyalty is one of the prime qualities a woman wants in her man. And every good husband will not stave his wife of this desirable cravings.
Self-reliance is good and can only take us so far as the depth of our knowledge permit, but you must understand that no man can actually succeed in marriage without seeking expert guidance where necessary. A smart man has to realize when he cannot do it all himself. When your marriage is in trouble, you definitely need expert advice. It is normal for a man to refuse to go to a marriage counselor over little matters, but it is abnormal for a man to refuse a visit to a marriage and relationship consultant when the success of his relationship is in shamble. It is foolish for a man to prefer to buy a map than ask for directions. In the same way, some men display stupidity by reading how-to guides on how to save their marriage than ask for professional help. How-to guides have their unique input in maintaining a healthy relationship, but it cannot in most cases substitute for a physical visit to a professional marriage consultant. In a lot of cases, getting good advice is enough. Modifying our attitudes and the subsequent behaviors those attitudes cause can have profound effects on a failing marriage. But sometimes the problems run deeper. In such situation, the man should co-operate with his wife and see a professional to talk things over and abide by the guidance received.
Do not die in silence; speak out and save your marriage. Professional marriage counselors help to reinforce the points I have made above. They are instructors in how to listen, how to show respect, how to avoid judgment, how to be a part of the team, how to express our feelings and how to be more affectionate. In short, when a man finds that his best efforts to improve his marriage skills fail, he needs a trained instructor to work on those skills with immediate effect.
15. Own up when you have messed up: It takes largeness of heart and spirit to admit when you are wrong, and also to apologize and mean it. It is also just about the only thing that helps to heal the hurt you may have unwittingly caused. If you can empathize with what your partner's feeling because of something you have said, done or have left undone, and can express your sorrow for it, you will be forgiven. And this will go a long way to make you a good husband. Good husbands show a sign of remorse and sincerely apologize when they are wrong. They go the extra mile to remedy the effect of their maltreatment. Apologizing to your wife when you are wrong does not mean you are a fool or a weakling, but it goes a long way to demonstrate that you love her and also care for her feelings. It shows that you consider her a part of you rather than making her a slave.
16. Forsaking All Others: This is very simple, but not to most men who like to eye-follow everything on skirt. These are men who are suffering from a disease called arrested development. Every man must realize that they took an oath on their wedding day to ‘forsake all others, and keep solely to their wife’. You promised to have a single wife for the rest of your life. So if you have a mistress or a girlfriend, then you are not keeping your promise. And this inevitably means you are not a good husband. I know most men will be angry with me on this note, but please realize that I am telling you the truth. It very surprising what has become of men these days. Even pastors are leaving their wives to run after other women outside. This is not good. If your wife begins to run after other men, how will you feel? Do not be misled by the concept which permit men to fantasize outside their matrimonial home. This is a sure way to marital frustration and destructive consequence as a result of a broken covenant of marriage. Be satisfied with the wife of your youth. Draw water only from your cistern and let the breast of your wife satisfy you. A good husband will not share his matrimonial love with another woman. A good husband remains faithful to his wife as long as they both live.
If you want to be a good husband, then get rid of the girlfriend(s). Do not put yourself in situations where you will be tempted to break your vows. Put the effort you would put into covering up an illicit relationship into improving your relationship with your wife instead. It will pay untold dividends. If you are a newly married husband or one celebrating your 50th wedding anniversary, you still can learn how to be a better husband. Relationships are a never-ending process that take persistent work on a daily basis to stay at their optimal level. Even the best husband in the world can work on some things, and improve in many ways. Faithfulness and loyalty is one of the prime qualities a woman wants in her man. And every good husband will not stave his wife of this desirable cravings.
Endeavor as a man to have a sense of honor and duty. The honorable thing is to fulfill the duty to your wife that you took upon yourself the day you got married. It is the duty of a man to be faithful to his wife. Put in all your efforts to stay connected and committed to your wife in all things. Even if she is not as pretty as other girls or women out there, you owe her an everlasting duty of remaining faithful at all cost.This is an honorable duty of a good husband.
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