THE MAKING OF A GOOD HUSBAND (PART ONE)

Knowing how to develop the attitude of a good husband is fundamental to the growth and success of every marriage relationship. Knowing how to be a good husband takes effort, but the rewards are enormous! When you are uncertain or frustrated in your marriage, ask,”What would a Good Husband do?” This question will help you keep your direction and commitment.. I am committed in this article to offer some useful suggestions on how to be a good husband:

1. Remember your wedding vows always: The best place to start the process of developing the attitude of a good husband is to evaluate your wedding vows and remember your vow of commitment on that faithful day when you said I do. Whether you said it deliberately or out of compulsion, it does not matter. The fact that you made that solemn vow in the presence of God and before many witnesses, you have to live by its tenets. Look at your wedding vows. Use those as the touchstone by which you judge your performance as a husband. On the day of your wedding you took an oat to love your wife, comfort her, forsake all other women and remain true to her as long as both of you shall live. You also told her, “with this ring I did wed, and with all my worldly goods I did endowed. In sickness and in health, in poverty or in wealth, till death us do part”.

    2.    Love your wife: The first words in those vows are crucial. When the priest asked, ‘Will you love her?’ you said, ‘yes, I do’. Even if you have a reason to hate her, just love her. That is what you promise to do. If you do not love her who else do you want to love her? I have heard many men tell me, ‘do not seem to have good feelings for her anymore, we have fallen out of love’. That may be a reality, but there is one thing I want you to realize; love is an action word. When you begin to love your wife and do those little love actions you will begin to have those romantic feelings for her again. Love is about giving, not about taking. What you do for her is what gives you the satisfaction of loving. In my years of marriage and relationship consulting, I have seen many men who do not know what to do to show that they love somebody. Well, in case you want to know, the following romantic ideas will help:

• Encourage her.
• Put her needs ahead of your own.
• Listen to her.
• Forgive her for her faults and mistakes.
• Give to her without thinking about what you are getting in return.
• Take her out for a good treat.
• Kiss her
• Adore her always
• Lavish her with sincere compliments
• Write her a love poem
• Care for her like no one has ever done.

The bible said, ‘husband love your wife and Christ loved the church and gave his life for her. For this reason a man shall live his father and mother and shall cleave to his wife and both of them shall become one flesh.’