THE ELEMENTS OF FALLING IN LOVE

Why people fall in love!

Falling in love is produced by energy far above reason. It appeals more to emotions. Some times the heart does things that reason cannot comprehend. And anyone who understands the art of appealing to the heart can make anyone fall in love easily. Those who are successful in family love and sustainable relationship are those who have consciously or unconsciously engaged the elements of falling in love.

Romantic love is enigmatic. It is hard to capture and convert into computerized, controlled bits and bytes of information. Many scholars have given their time and effort to research in order to find the basics behind the art of falling in love. Their findings have made tremendous contribution to the improvement of family love.

Drawing inspiration from the works of great scholars in the fields of successful relationships, interpersonal relations, psychology, sociology, family love and from personal observation, I discovered six varieties of what makes people fall in love. These varieties are what I called, "The elements of falling in love". Anyone who wants to successfully make anyone fall in love with him or her must as a necessity learn how to be a skillful master of these six fundamental elements of falling in love. Now get ready as we explore each in detail:

First Impression: Endeavor to make a good first impression the first time you set your eyes on the one you want to make fall in love with you. You never get a second chance at love at first sight. The first moment you catch a glimpse of your object of love is a fundamental moment of romantic decision. Great scientist has observed that the seed of love are often sown during first few minutes of a relationship. The way you present yourself before your object of love will make a lasting impression on her mind. If your presentation is poor, unromantic and unattractive, be sure to get a no answer.

The moment you set your eyes on the one you want to make fall in love with you, your potential lover subconsciously reads the subtleties of your body language. At this first moment of personal contact he or she may resolve to embark on a romantic journey of love or abort the thought of romantic love with you. It all depends on how your first impression blends your romantic chemistry.

A man and a woman getting to know each other are like two little animals sniffing each other out. We do not have tails that wag or hair that brittles, but we do have eyes that narrow or widen. We have hands that flash knuckles or subconsciously soften in the palms-up “I submit” position. 

There are dozens of other “involuntary” reactions that take place in the first few moments of interaction. The good news is that we can learn to control these presumed involuntary reactions.

Complementary Needs: This is the test for character similarity. After passing the first impression element, the next elements of falling in love is complementary needs. At this stage your object of love begins to access you more carefully to find out if you have qualities that compliment his or her needs. Do not forget that people do things because it satisfies their interest. 

If there must be compatibility for a life time of family love or even for a date, there must definitely be some level of complementary similarities. 

The heart of men and women are finely tuned instruments that seek someone with a similar and complementary values, beliefs and perspectives.

Similarity makes men and women feel terrific because it confirms the choices they have spent years making. People who enjoy the same activities can actually have fun together, than those with differing interests. Similarity is basically a launch pad on which family love emanate.

However, as good as this may be, too much of it becomes a burden. Men and women cannot have a successful family love experience without having a partner to make up for areas of their weakness. Therefore, complementary qualities are sort for by intelligent women and smart men before they commit to a romantic love.And if you desire peace and harmony in your family love endeavors, you should take seriously the issue of complimentary needs.

Do not just settle for any complementary qualities, but seek that which you find interesting and also that which will enhance your life in a more productive manner. Seek someone who is both similar and complementary.

Equity: This is the place of relevance in the art of making anyone fall in love with you. Everybody has a price tag and or a market value. This comes in a variety of packages. Some is beauty, others is money, and still others prestige, intelligence, power and influence. Your potential lover wants to know what you can do for her. He or she wants to know how falling in love with you will help to improve his or her life.

So many people believe that love is blind, but I have a contrary view to this. If you enter into love blindly, you will be greatly disappointed when the stack reality of life opens up the underlying truth. Everybody – even the richest and best people has touched a crash when it comes to choosing a long term partner. Before you commit, you must ask your self what is in it for me. Even if you ignore this basic truth, your potential lover may not be foolish enough to think the same.

Some of you may think that I am being selfish. Well, you may be right! But do not blame me, experience have taught me to be a little selfish when it comes to dealing with people. Why? Of course I will tell you. Everybody you see today is selfish in one way or the other to some degree. They are in the game because of what they stand to gain; take this away from them, and you will be amazed at how and where they will dump you in the pit of frustration. You do not know the degree of selfishness in the life of the one you are dealing with you, so why will you place yourself in a position to be exploited and dumped?

Do not allow love drive you to the point where your senses do not have the serenity to function properly. True love is pure and compassionate, involving caring, communion, and selflessness. That is what love is when people are truly in love. This kind of selfless love only comes after you have made your potential love to genuinely fall in love with you. But until then, you must allow the “what is in it” principle to guide your response.

If you want to make anyone fall in love with you, you must do your best to convince them that they are getting a good deal by falling in love with you. Lovers unconsciously and consciously calculate the other person’s comparable worth, cost-benefit ratio of relationship, the maintenance cost, the hidden cost and the cost of the assumed depreciation. Everybody has a big score card hidden in their heart, and if you want to make anyone fall in love with you, you have to do a good deal of work to convince them that they are being offered an opportunity of a life time to add more relevance to their lives. If you do a good job of convincing by putting your best foot forward, you will be able to make anyone quickly fall in love with you.

Ego: If you want to make anyone fall in love with you level your ammunition and fire right their ego. People fall in love with people in whose eyes they behold the most ideal reflection of themselves. Ego makes the world go round and if you can make your potential lover feel more beautiful, handsome, and charming, string to make the object of your love feel very important. This electrifies their emotion and makes them fall in love with you as if you casted a love spells on them.

The deepest need of every individual is the craving for appreciation. Everyone hunger for security and validation. Anyone who can honestly provide this has the whole world with him, and anyone who cannot shall be avoided like a plaque. If you want to make anyone fall in love with you, you must explore ways to make the object of your love realize and believe you are the salvation from the storms of life.

Knowledge of gender differences: There are grate differences between women and men. Women are exasperating, agitating, calculating, infuriating and maddening while men seem to be insensitive. Women are looking for love, but men for lust. Therefore, to make anyone fall in love with you, you must know and or be vast in the knowledge of gender differences.

Brain Excitation: You have to work on your potential sexuality. Appeal to sensual instinct. Make them feel very hungry; evoke their sexual drive. Sexuality is an electronic fire that can be awakened by giving momentum to mind power. Suck out the dream of sexual energy, longings, and the fantasies of your potential lover, and create a life long erotic aura that he or she luxuriates in. you must master how to evoke and manipulate the worst powerful erogenous zone (the brain) of your potential lover. This is a fundamental key to make him or her fall in love with you. This techniques give your potential lover ultimate sexual euphoria making him or her fall in love with you.

Conclusion: If you want to make anyone fall in love with you, you must as a matter of necessity understand the impact of first impression, the influence of similarity, the skewed reckoning of equity, the sarcasm of ego, the magnitude of gender differences and the ecstasy enrapture of sex. 

Lovers unconsciously and consciously calculate the other person’s comparable worth, cost-benefit ratio of relationship, the maintenance cost, the hidden cost and the cost of the assumed depreciation. 

Everybody has a big score card hidden in their heart, and if you want to make anyone fall in love with you, you have to do a good deal of work to convince them that they are being offered an opportunity of a life time to add more relevance to their lives. If you do a good job of convincing by putting your best foot forward, you will be able to make anyone quickly fall in love with you.

Take your time to practice the above elements of falling in love, and you will be able to make anyone fall in love with you. If you have any contribution on this topic feel free to share it with us and our valued visitors.

Have a wonderful love life!