3. Be Her Sounding Board: To be a good husband you must be the sound board of your wife. Women love men who will be there as their sound boards. Women like talking, even if you do not appreciate that, just give them the opportunity to talk on and pour out her heart. When tells you about her problems realize that she is not looking for a problem solver. All she need is a caring heart, a listening ear and an empathetic partner show can feel what she is going through and offer some words of encouragement.
Most time when we hear of our wife’s problem, we tend to come to their rescue instinctively, but in most cases what the woman needs is a psychological husband rather than a troubleshooting husband. All you need to do is listen to her problems; show concern for those problems; show that you have empathy; but do not always reply with ‘here’s what you need to do.’ Never be a lawyer when your wife comes to you with a problem. And she certainly does not need you to be her coach, giving her fiery motivational speeches about how to beat her problem. She wants a counselor who cares to listen to her problems and help her deal with their emotional impact.
Listen to what your wife has to say. A good husband listens to his wife. Sometimes she needs to talk to someone and that does not necessarily mean she needs you to fix it. Sometimes instead of having a problem fixed, women just want someone to listen to them so they can talk it out and work it out in their own minds and hearts. She might ask for suggestions or thoughts, but sometimes what she really wants is just a sounding board. This is where many men mess things up. They cannot bear a woman talking their heart out; most especially when it has to do with areas their husband have shown some level of disapproval.
Well if you want to have a peaceful home and be a good husband by making your wife happy, you have be determine to refrain from any form of verbal abuse and scolding of any sort. And make your self available as a sound board and allow her to pour out her heart. Feel the emotion with her and comfort her even as she goes through that moment of hurt.
4. Always Show Respect to your wife: To be a good husband you must learn to show respect to your wife both privately and publicly. A major part of showing respect is to avoid the trap of being hyper-critical. Do not criticize the way your wife dresses, cook meals, parks the car. You might think you are instructing your wife, but you are actually showing disrespect for the decisions you make. Do not also correct her in the presence of friends and family members. This will greatly affect her self esteem and also make her loose confidence in your ability to protect her. Watching the dirty linen of your wife in the public does not make look like a real man, but it only helps to foster the destructive effort of your idiotic behavior. It portrays you as a bad man.
Never kick against her decision and order once it was passed before you came. Honor it and allow those it affects to know that you are standing on your wife’s decision. Actions are just as important as words. Do not make decisions that normally a married couple should collectively. This shows you have no respect for her opinion. Doing this does not make you less important, but rather it makes you a good husband.
Put your marriage first. Whether you are religious or not, some things are just sacred. Marriage is very near the top of the list of sacred things. Society is built on successful families and successful families are built on a bedrock foundation of trust, love and fidelity. If every man in the world would treat his marriage like it was the most important thing in the world, above his career, friends, and hobbies, then so much of society’s problems would be solved. A good husbands values his wife above all others.
Try to avoid certain intonations with your wife, the kind that can be described as “talking down on her”. A woman can pick up on these as well or better than a man can. These tell her you have contempt for whatever is she is doing, and that you are treating her like a child or even your pet. Disrespect is one of the surest ways to poison a marriage and creates problems that will frustrate and destroy the love in your marriage relationship.
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